Monday, October 17, 2005

Food for thought

The Keys to Your Heart

You are attracted to good manners and elegance.

In love, you feel the most alive when everything is uncertain, one moment heaven... the next moment hell.

You'd like to your lover to think you are stylish and alluring.

You would be forced to break up with someone who was insecure and in constant need of reassurance.

Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... One you can grow with.

Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.

You think of marriage as something precious. You'll treasure marriage and treat it as sacred.

In this moment, you think of love as something you can get or discard anytime. You're feeling self centered.

Most of this is freakishly true, cept for the part where it says: "you think of love as something you can get or discard anytime. You're feeling self centered" Neva been that way, neva will. Maybe that's part of my problem. One thing is for certain though - once you hit your 40's, (man, the sound of that really fucking sucks. I am not that old!) your tolerance for insecurity is much lower.

Basically, it boils down to: Be good to me. I will be good to you. I will not screw you over. I want what I want. This is what I want. If you cannot deal with that, or you choose to screw me over, then bubye.

It actually took me 35 years to get up off the floor and truly learn that concept.

Human beings have been practicing this relationship thing for many thousands of years now. I want to know why we aren't better at it. Why do we still tolerate abuse & mistreatment? (I am guilty of it). Why haven't we written down the rights and wrongs of relationships? Why is it just the three "r's" and not the four: reading, writing, rythmatic & relationships?

Why is the formula for the theory of relativity more important than; the formula for raising a child to adulthood successfully or the formula for having a happy, fulfilling life & marriage?

And, why the hell don't children come with directions???


izchan said...

it takes human being time to analyze pain.

coming to term with it and then understanding the way around it.

children do come with guide books. its titled "The Parent's Success Guide To Parenting for Dummies" sold in most MPH stores.

KFarmer said...

hey- that was pretty fun!

cicibug said...

Hey Sharfa, I'm back with a brand new computer. Just wanted to say "HELLO". I lost all my stuff on my other computer when it crashed. Nothing could be salvaged from the hard drive so email me again if you want to.

KFarmer said...

ok- you went MIA on me again... cats, pup, son & U alright? :)

KFarmer said...

oh... forgot- bird? (still working on 1st cup of joe)

KFarmer said...

just read your comment on MM's site. OMG- we really could be sisters/peas- LOL- I wonder if I have any family up your way that I dont know about? : )